Settling the Estate Part 9: Evil doesn’t stop working……even on Labor Day Weekend

I don’t think my heart ever spent so much time pounding so fast, for such an extended period of time in my life. It felt as if it was constantly in 5th gear. Satan’s antics were really starting to stress me out. Normal me wanted to get in my car, drive to her house, ring her doorbell, and cold cock her right in her big, round pumpkin face, with a hit so hard it would knock her out cold, but executor me didn’t want to do anything to fuck up what I had fought so hard for. A second alternative was a profanity laced email telling her exactly where she can shove her bullshit email, and offering assistance in doing so, but I couldn’t do that either. I am not going to lie. I dream of the day I run into her, alone somewhere, where I don’t have my kid and she doesn’t have hers because I’d give her a the blanket party of a lifetime. It’s probably a good thing she always has to have my brother on her leash with her at all times. There’s probably a reason she never goes anywhere alone. I’m sure I’m not the only one out there that this succubus, waste of human flesh and bones, has tortured.

Instead of going crazy though, I tried to keep my cool and so I decided to respond to her email calmly. One of the main things I didn’t want her thinking was that any of the stupid shit she was doing, was effecting me. I don’t know if experts in the field would agree with this, but the last thing you want to do is show a narcissist your emotions. They do not care about them and all they will do is use them against you or to their advantage. I dealt with Satan by being sarcastic and making everything she said a joke. On Sunday, Sept. 3rd I responded to Satan’s email.

Um yeah my mom actually gave [my brother] and [my brother’s ex-fiancé] TV away years ago. You wouldn’t know cuz you couldn’t come to her house  for the last few years. You can take the tv in the den, it’s a better TV anyway. The one in her room was hers. She purchased it when she re-did her bedroom. I can get a hold of the [store’s] receipt for it if you’d like.  As for not taking things without giving you a “chance to object,” it works both ways. You took a lot of stuff without giving me a chance to object. Like those feminine Apple Watch straps, that were in the dish in front her her TV, the vase in her bathroom and the rain chain and bronze pots that were hanging off the front of the porch, amongst other things,  all odd choices for a man to take. I didn’t know you were into flowers and home decor. Now I know that a gift card to home goods will be a good Christmas gift for you this year. You should’ve told me you wanted it like you told me you wanted that wagon. 

Have a wonderful weekend! Xoxox

It was the truth. I have said it before and I will say it again. Narcissists think they are smarter than everyone. She somehow thought that when they went into my mom’s house that day, and she began shopping around, I wasn’t going to know what they took. Besides the fact that I lived there for 28 years of my life and knew the house inside and out, I spent a lot of time there during the last few years of my mom’s life while my brother and Satan were not speaking to her. I helped my mom decorate and clean. We went shopping together. My mom and I would always show each other new stuff we got. She has no concept of the kind of relationship me and my mom had because she kept my brother and herself isolated from her for pretty much their entire 3 year long relationship. On top of that, I don’t think Satan has that kind of relationship with her mom or even her own daughter for that matter, because narcissists don’t know how to form deep and meaningful relationships. People, even their own flesh and blood are treated like objects, or extensions of themselves and they all serve a specific purpose. They all feed the narcissistic supply in some way.

Another relationship of mine that she doesn’t seem to understand is the one between me and my brother. Prior to her evil ass entering the picture, my brother and I had a good relationship. In fact it was the best it had been in years, or at least I thought it was. One person I’d love to talk to is Satan’s sister who she hasn’t spoken to in over a decade, (although I suspect her sister has her own set of problems, similar to Satan’s). I don’t know what their relationship was like or why they don’t talk (we’ve been told several different reasons). Whatever it was like, I can guarantee it was not anything like the relationship I had with my brother, and again, that’s where she failed.

Anyway, as I was saying, I knew what my mom had and what was missing after the day they cut the lock off the shed and left the mess at my mom’s house. I had noticed that all the items that were taken from the house were thing that my brother would NEVER go after. My brother would never want flower pots or vases, a small accent table, and what was he going to do with my mom’s feminine looking Apple Watch straps? In fact, I noticed that Satan seemed to purposely take things that I had purchased for my mom or things that my brother would know I would want. There is no question she eyes up specific items for a reason. I bought my mom the Apple Watch straps that Christmas. She took the flower pots and rainchain that I had purchased for her, amongst other things. Left behind were things like The living room TV, DVD players, and oddly enough all of my dad’s tools and his toolbox, all things you would think a man would want.

All Satan wanted to do was torture me and it was becoming clear. A perfect example is the game she kept playing with me about my mom’s “additional life insurance policy”. I had emailed her the day prior asking (for the fifth time) for the information about it, and as you can see, she kept putting me off by telling me she “didn’t have it”, “she wasn’t home”, she’d “get it to me in a timely manner”, etc. I finally emailed her in the morning on Sept 2, before I went to get my grandmother, and here’s what finally ended up happening. I wrote:

Surely you have to havebwen [sic] to your house at some point this week. I need the name and number for my mom’s life insurance. Don’t know why you’re being so secretive and evasive with it. Kind of strange. 

Almost an hour later at 12:24pm along with the other bullshit email she sent me, she also sent this.

I was contacted by the company as a beneficiary. They have not yet informed me that you are a beneficiary. I would have assumed if you are a beneficiary, they would have contacted  you directly. I am in the process of obtaining more information and will provide it, if it pertains to you. 

I’ve left a stack of signed checks to pay the creditors. Each check is in an addressed envelope. Please sign the check

This sadistic, twisted fuck wanted me to think that my mom had some secret life insurance policy that my brother was the only beneficiary of. First off, that NEVER would’ve happened! Everyone I showed this email to, that knew my mom said the same thing, “your mom would NEVER do that.”. Satan just wanted to get me riled up that day. She wanted to ruin my day with my grandmother, but more importantly she wanted to toy with me and send me on a wild goose chase looking for some life insurance policy that never even existed. To this day I don’t know what the truth was and to be honest I don’t even care anymore. Like many things with Satan I have learned not to try to rationalize them. She is sick, twisted and evil. I will never understand anyone who goes out of their way to fuck with other people’s minds at times when they are at their most vulnerable, like while they’re grieving the loss of their mother. The best I can come up with is that she is just a hateful, miserable person who isn’t happy with herself and who she is, so she has to try to suck the joy out of anyone who isn’t like her. That is why narcissist are often referred to as emotional vampires.

She didn’t reply to my email about the TV until the morning of September 3rd, at 9:36 am. (Side note I noticed that she was very regimented and sent her emails at the same times of day, all of the time. Often times they came early in the morning between the hours of 8:00 and 9:30. I’m glad to know I was the first thing she thought of when she woke up everyday). Here’s what she said: (take note of the parts I’ve underlined)

I don’t know why you keep addressing emails to me as if you’re talking to someone else. It makes you sound unstable. 

And you’re correct. It does go both ways. During our phone conversation of 8/21 and on my follow up email of 8/22, I said that I wouldn’t remove items from the house without notifying you first. You wrote me on 8/24 stating that you had already started removing items and you would provide me with a list. I have yet to receive a list. 

I took things from mom’s house to remember mom by. Some of the things, I gave to her as gifts. Some of the things, I will use to decorate my house and yard. Some of the things, I will give to [my brother’s daughter]. Attached is a complete list of items that I’ve taken. Provide me with yours, including items that you’ve taken prior to being named as executor. 

Also, as you might have noticed, I returned the home videos as I’ve made copies of them. Return the photo albums to the house immediately so that I have the opportunity to copy them. 

I am officially notifying you that I do not authorize you to remove anymore items from the house without my approval. I will do the same. The only things that I am authorizing to be removed from the house, is the bed and fan for [my grandmother], if she can use them. 

I am 100% prepared to go back to court, if necessary. It will not cost me any more money to do so. 

And here we go…..

Things took a turn for the worst this weekend. The more I made light of the things she was saying, the more angry she got. Another thing she didn’t realize is that I had an attorney and I utilized him. Before I did anything I would always consult with him or someone in his office. My attorney told me I could take whatever I wanted from the house seeing that my brother stated in his first emails and in our phone call that he didn’t want much from the house. That I could do whatever I wanted with the stuff in the house, etc. Even if I were to give her a list, I wasn’t going to do so until I was 100% done going through the house. At this point in time i wasn’t even 1/10th of the way done going through things.

She just doesn’t realize what an asshole she sounded like. Nothing that they took were gifts bought by him! My brother was the gift card king! I can’t even remember the last time he bought my mom an actual gift. That coupled with the fact that my brother wasn’t around for any birthdays or holidays since he and Satan met, I knew none of the things they took were “gifts from him”.

As far as the photo albums went….. my mom was big time into photography. She was that Aunt at the family parties who always had the camera in her hand, and was making everyone pose for pics. She is the reason I love taking pictures so much too. My mom used to take her camera everywhere with us when we were kids. She had a whole closet in a spare bedroom that was almost entirely dedicated to photos. I filled up 3 of the xtra large sized Rubbermaid storage bins with all the photo albums, plus more. Yes, my brother was entitled to some of those as well, but I noticed when I went to take them, that some of the albums I had left out from when I was gathering photos for her wake, were missing, meaning he had already helped himself to some. Also, I’m sorry, but I have heard his wife with my own ears threatening to destroy his stuff. There was absolutely no way in HELL that I was going to leave the only things that I had left of my family, go anywhere that, that demon seed would have access or be in control of them. No fucking way in hell! Over my dead body. NO! My brother knows they are safe with me. One day when he leaves her, maybe he can come here and take some. Until then I’m sorry, but I’m protecting my family’s legacy. I know right now my brother is brainwashed and indoctrinated and maybe one day when he comes out of the fog he will understand why I was so adamant about keeping the family photos.

Before I move on, one last thing I have to mention is the very first sentence of her email where she says that she doesn’t know why I keep addressing her as if I’m speaking to someone else and how it makes me sound, “unstable”. This is yet another tactic used by narcissists and it’s called gaslighting. She knows damn well why I am addressed those emails as if I’m speaking to someone else. I have already said it several times that I don’t think I’m speaking to my brother, that I’m not sure who I’m talking to, and I even told my brother over the phone that, I’m not really sure it’s him I’m speaking to. She knows exactly why I’m doing it, but once again, she is trying to create this narrative. I noticed she did this a lot. It’s almost as if she thought there was a third party (the courts) that were going to read all of these emails, and so she wanted to create this narrative that I was incompetent and unstable. If you watch this video on YouTube it explains how narcissist gaslight , very well.

The last thing I want to point out is the last paragraph where she tells me she’s “fully prepared to take me to court”. Again, this was the second or third time I had received the court threat. Since I had previously told her that doing so was going to cost both of us a lot of money she made sure to let me know it wouldn’t cost her anything. The truth is, it would’ve. Trust me, I know because at this point in time I had gone to my attorneys several times about these emails and the way I was being spoken to, and my attorneys kept telling me that if we went to the courts, a) it would cost me money to enter a petition and pay them to litigate the matter or b) since my brother and I were not the original executors, and the estate had been sitting stagnant long enough, that there was a chance that the judge would see two grown adults, who clearly couldn’t get along, and assign a public administrator to take over and get the estate settled. A public administrator is essentially a lawyer who would take over and it could cost us around 10% of the estate. As fed up as I was with them at that point, they were not worth tens of thousands of dollars of my inheritance. Satan thought, like most idiots in her life probably do, that I’d give in…..but I knew all her threats were just empty threats.

Along with that email, Satan attached what she referred to as a “completed inventory list”. Take note of the word COMPLETED because it will become relevant in future posts.

A copy of the “COMPLETED” inventory list of items I was supposed to believe my brother wanted.

Also, take notice of the items on the list. Firstly it’s all bullshit items that are essentially worthless. There’s no value in half used candles, incense, and pez dispensers. I have to laugh because she wrote “Star Trek”. My mom didn’t have any Star Trek stuff. She had a lot of Star WARS stuff, because my brother is a total Star Wars geek and collected Star Wars memorabilia since he was a kid. Had my brother actually wrote this list, he would’ve know the difference between Star Wars and Star Trek.

I’m also a little creeped out that she took 2 pairs of binoculars. God only knows who she plans on watching with those. I’m not sure what creeped me out more though, the fact that she took binoculars or the fact that she admitted to taking my mom’s SOCKS! I’m not sure what “yoga socks” are exactly, but either way why, why on God’s green earth would you want someone else’s socks? Especially socks from someone that you know did not like you?

One thing that really caught my attention about this list is that 90% of it is stuff I know for a 100% FACT, my brother would NEVER, EVER BE INTERESTED IN! In fact, why would ANY man want, a “sister’s mug”, four serving plates, yoga socks, 2 boxes of pocono candles, a red apple wreath Yankee candle, a vase (with flowers in it), a butterfly magnet, hanging bird baths, “handing planters” (I think she meant hanging planters) a watering can or a watering can fountain? NONE of those items would be of ANY interest to my brother and I can say this with 100% certainty.

She also conveniently left some items off her “completed list” such as my mom’s lingerie chest (another item my “brother” would NEVER want), a small accent table/plant stand, and of course the straps I bought my mom for Christmas that year for her Apple Watch, amongst other jewelry, and a jewelry box that Satan took. All in which they NEVER gave me the chance to OBJECT TO, as they promised they would and were requesting I did!!!!!!

I don’t think I could adequately describe how enraged I was about ALL OF this. Yes, my brother was entitled to take stuff from the house just as I was, but here I was being told that I cannot take anything from the house without giving my brother a chance to “object” first to what I was taking, yet “he” is handing me a list of items HE TOOK without giving ME the chance to object!! In what world does ANY of this make sense?

I was so aggravated. For the most part, the stuff they took didn’t bother me. The only things I was upset about was the photo that I took of my dog and the planters and stuff that I had purchased for my mom. Still, I didn’t say a word about it. What bothered me was the fact that I knew these weren’t things my brother wound EVER want. These were ALL items his wife wanted and there is no doubt she specifically chose some of them just to hurt me. She knew how my mom felt about her. Why? Why would you even want the items of someone who you knew hated you? Maybe it’s me, but I can NEVER imagine myself taking things that belonged to my mother-in-law, especially knowing that she has a daughter who would probably want them. I’ve also known my mother-in-law for over a decade and I’ve always had a good relationship with her. Satan treated my mom like absolute shit for the 3 years she knew her! She only started cozying up to my mom after she was diagnosed with a rare and aggressive form of cancer. That’s because she wanted to ensure she got my brother’s half of her estate. How can she feel Just look at some of the nasty texts she sent my mom over the years….

Screenshots of texts between my mom (blue) and Satan (grey) back before their wedding in 2013. She had only known us for about 8 months. She caused a fight between my mom and my brother because of something my cousin did to her. My mom was COMPLETELY uninvolved.

All bullshit! She was accusing my mom of sharing a photo of her and her ex kissing,with my cousin, who sent it to her and told her she should remove it.

She had posted a photo of her holding a gun on Facebook and wrote underneath it something about wishing she could shoot stupid people, referring to my mom.

Another rude text sent to my mom by Satan. This unsolicited text sent because my mom asked my brother to meet with her on a Tuesday night at a dinner so she could give him his birthday gift.

(You can also listen to the recorded arguments my mom had with Satan here and here and parts 2&3 here and here)

The day my mom died as we were leaving the funeral home I remember standing in the parking lot. Satan ran and sat in the car because she was all mad that I didn’t want to host my mom’s funeral dinner at the Irish pub she chose. Me, my brother and my husband stood in the parking lot for a minute and spoke to one another. My brother started going on about how we should just do an estate sale. My husband said, “well isn’t there stuff you want?”, and my brother said, “no” and went on to say how it was all crap in house and how my mom was a junk collector and pack rat. Now I’m supposed to believe he had an interest in all the junk? It was ALL his wife.

I had to let Satan know that her stupid games and empty threats were not going to work on me, and so at 3:15pm on a Sunday, on Labor Day weekend, I responded to her bullshit email:

do you even read what you wrote? You told me you wouldn’t take items from the house without first notifying me but you just gave me a list of items you took without notifying me first. I also have you on tape saying that you don’t want anything from the house, just your stuff from the attic and the utility wagon. Given the fact that you removed stuff already, and I know your list is incomplete because you started removing item back when you went to the courts and perjured yourself, saying my mom didn’t have a will, when you in fact knew she did. You want to take me to court when I took a tv and left you another one, that’s fine. Keep holding up the estate. You don’t get to tell me whether or not I can remove things or not remove things. I’m glad you are going to remember my mom by her yoga socks and decorations in your house: I would’ve thought you wanted some tools but I should’ve known better. Also that Polaroid camera didn’t belong to my mother. It was her bosses, camera just like all the other cameras in my  old bedroom. She was listing them on eBay for him, but of course you wouldn’t know that because you hardly talked to her. I’m not fighting you over mugs and yoga socks. You forgot the toilet cleaner and wrapping paper you took. 

 

I think we both know exactly why I’m addressing you as someone else.

 

As for the life insurance policy, you make me laugh, there is NO WAY my mom ever would’ve taken out a life insurance policy and lonely [sic] put [my brother] as the beneficiary No way. If she had a life insurance policy, there would be bank statements showing payments for premiums. The life insurance company magically knew she died and got in contact with you? Sounds fishy

 

Also, why would you write out a $2000 check to a doctor when she had health insurance? Did you even investigate that? 

Clearly I was pissed and rightfully so. I had every reason in the world to hate this person. I was done dealing with her bullshit and I wanted her to know, Satan as per usual couldn’t just leave well enough alone. At 4:46 pm she emailed me back…..

To be continued……

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